Listening-Hearing

We are listening, not only hearing.

That’s the most difficult task to calm our ego down, to give the others the opportunity to speak up, even we have something to say too.

Why listening different from hearing? Imho, listening is actually a form of hearing but in more thorough part. Listening needs affection, gesture, and sympathy. Listening needs the three of them. The sounds we hear from the others and the gestures we see from them show how they feel, one higher level from only what they say.

What actually they need from us? Affection and sympathy. Trying to figure-it-out if we are in their position, what likely we feel and we do, the responds of the condition they face. Most of them may need that, but some may ignore the solution we give, ‘cause sometimes they know what supposed to do but they first need to calm their feelings down, relaxing the harsh, discomfort and anxiousness they face by the affection and sympathy given to them.

One things for sure, don’t let our good intention destroyed by some-over-acting things we do. Everything too much isn’t always good, right? Our good affection and sympathy intentions may turn to the ’how-pity-your-life-is’ judgement if we show some exaggerate responds towards their problem. Remember, each of us have the limit border that separate between our privacy and outer world. Appreciate it by understanding their limit, caring in proper way-not too much nor less.

The listening-understanding world sometimes taste so abstract to be talked to. But it gonna be less abstract if we practice, face, & handle it routinely by trying to switch the habit of ‘only-hearing’ to ‘listening-understanding’.

Well, goodluck! (: